Most people say that grief in a person's life diminishes with the passage of time. We heard many times that time cures most of the things, if not everything.
What a false notion this is?
Grief caused by certain losses, setbacks in life does not go away. Think about the grief that comes from the loss of a loved one in life. Many times, there is no healing from it. If I had to give size to grief, then that size does not shrink away as life moves on. What happens is that life grows around it.
One random thought, smell, song, food, one something is enough to bring that grief back into focus. One can cope up with it but cannot overcome it.
It is like that backlight that remains as a bokeh in a portrait photograph. All it needs is a slight turn of the focus ring.
Such a grief is personal. Do not try to equate it with someone else's. Accept it. Treat it as a part of your life.
Also, the response to someone else's grief should never be ' Yes, I too experienced such a grief. Don't worry it will get better'. Just lend a hearing ear and tell them that you are there if they want to talk. If possible, provide them that window to vent it out. If not, give them a warm hug, a tight shake hand and you move on.
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